All die of heartbreak

Nov
19
2010
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Lynne McTaggart
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Nearly a year ago, Hollywood was shocked when actress Brittany Murphy, just 32, died from pneumonia, which she contracted after taking over-the-counter drugs.  Within five months, her doting husband, British screenwriter Simon Monjack, aged 40, was also dead.  He’d died from a cardiac arrest – his heart had literally broken.
I bring this up because I just came across some fascinating data that confirms what I’ve always suspected: there is such a thing as a broken heart.
The widowmakers
Scientists have discovered this phenomenon is nothing new.  Researchers at St. Andrews University in Scotland, studying the lifespan of thousands of married couples, found that more than a third of men and a quarter of women die within three years of their partners’ deaths.
“The key message is that it doesn’t matter what causes of death you look at, there is still a widowhood effect,” remarked Professor Paul Boyle, chief executive of the Economic and Social Research Council and lead author of the study.
In his study, Boyle examined records of more than 58,000 men and about the same number of women who’d been married in 1991, and then tracked them for the following 15 years.  Of this group, more than 5,000 men and 9,600 women were widowed.
As is generally assumed, the men had a slightly tougher time of it, and within three years 40 per cent had died.  Nevertheless, of those women whose partners died, 26 per cent had died within the next three years.
Left behind
Most interesting of all was that the cause of death didn’t seem to matter.  The widowed partners died from illness, such as cancer or heart attack; self-inflicted causes, such as alcohol abuse, smoking or suicide; accidents, such as a car crash; or even murder.  It was as though once a partner dies, the remaining spouse feels left behind and decides to give up, one way or another.
I saw this firsthand with my in-laws.  My father in law was not a pleasant man; my mother-in-law spent many Sunday lunches muttering in the kitchen to me and my sister-in-law about one or another of his mean-spirited ways.
Nevertheless, over their 40 plus years of marriage, they’d developed not only a certain fondness for the other but also a great dependency.  When George gave up on life at 90 – he’d just had enough – Edie didn’t know what to do next.  We encouraged her to see her friends, take a trip.
But taking care of him had been her entire life.
“I just don’t know what to do with m’self,” she said repeatedly, looking down at her hands.  Within six months we held our second funeral – this time for Edie.
A broken heart can be almost instantaneously lethal. In 2009, the parents of Martin and Gary Kemp, two members of the old UK band Spandau Ballet, had an almost instantaneous case of widowhood effect, and died within two days of each other.
Breaking hearts
Scientists have tried to rationalize the widowhood effect as due to the similar lifestyles between couples, who consequently get exposed to the same risk factors.
But Japanese cardiologists have a better explanation, after discovering a phenomenon called ‘stress cardiomyopathy’, when an emotional upset, such as the loss of a loved one, causes dysfunction in the ventricular chamber and heart failure in people without previous heart disease.
The heart muscle temporarily weakens, causing it to literally break.  This situation, now referred to as ‘broken heart syndrome’, is caused by deep emotional stress, whether a sudden break up, a rejection or death of a spouse.
Researchers at Johns Hopkins found that women with this syndrome, which often brought on heart failure, had none of the usual predisposing factors of heart disease.  What they’d suffered was purely psychological — the sudden divorce or the death of a loved one.
Nevertheless, the bereavement or sadness had released such toxic levels of stress hormones, particularly adrenalin, that these had ‘stunned’ the heart, literally causing it to break.
In the St. Andrews study, Boyle concluded that people give up on life within six months of losing a partner, but that the broken-heart syndrome can occur up to six months after bereavement.
In other cases, such as that of Johnny Cash, death occurs from complications of an existing illness – diabetes in his case —just four months after the death of his wife June.
The loneliness disease
Heart expert Dr Dean Ornish has discovered an extraordinary statistic: all the usual risk factors for heart disease — smoking, obesity, a sedentary lifestyle and high-fat diet — only account for half of all heart disease.
Every so-called lifestyle risk factor laid at the door of cardiovascular illness by the medical community has less to do with someone having a heart attack than simple loneliness. No one environmental or dietary risk factor appears more important than isolation — from other people, from our own feelings and from a higher source.
In that sense, heart disease can be viewed chiefly a disease of emotional alienation.
Healthy adults with good support networks are shown to have lower blood cholesterol levels and higher levels of immune function than those without emotional support.
This is not confined to human society.  A similar situation exists in animal societies. Researchers conducting heart studies on rabbits are flabbergasted to find that among the animals given high cholesterol-producing diets, those who are played with and petted by researchers developed less cardiovascular disease than those who are in cages out of reach and left alone.
By the same token, when animals are placed in competitive environments with constant power struggles — in short, the typical dog-eat-dog environment of your average human work place – the stress of the confusing social hierarchy has more to do with causing heart disease than diet or other risk factors.
Only connect
This research demonstrates something very fundamental about the human experience – indeed, the experience of all living beings. The need to move beyond the boundaries of our selves as individuals is more vital to us than any diet or exercise program; it protects us against the worst toxins and the greatest adversity. This connection is the most fundamental need we have because it generates our most authentic state of being.
Despite our propensity for one-upsmanship and competition, our most basis urge always is to connect.

Lynne McTaggart

Lynne McTaggart is an award-winning journalist and the author of seven books, including the worldwide international bestsellers The Power of Eight, The Field, The Intention Experiment and The Bond, all considered seminal books of the New Science and now translated into some 30 languages.

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47 comments on “All die of heartbreak”

  1. There is something that no one has ever talked about, to my knowledge - when my husband died, I felt a physical pulling from him. I had to consciously say "No, I'm not done. I still have plenty to do here." It finally stopped after 2 or 3 days of my being *consciously* aware of wanting to stay. At that moment, I absolutely understood the phenomenon.

  2. Thanks, Lynn, for the email/article.
    Surviving heartbreak is an oxymoron it seems, as it nearly killed me. I definitely had heart issues and it then led to my nervous system malfunctioning, and I must say I remember the prayer that saved my life. I was traumatized to the point of involuntary/uncontrollable shaking. I thought it was the beginning of the end. I think it was that prayer, my healthy eating habits overall and family which allowed me to rebound somewhat and I'm still here today. I had to quit my gym membership because of pain literally in my heart when in the training zone. It could be damaged, but I try not to think about it. I like to believe that just as I was brought down, something can repair and bring me back up. We can only allow this by being open to it and wanting to be as close to whole again as possible.
    Thanks again Lynne!
    Best to all...
    P.S. Below is a note I sent to someone who was looking for help, sad after a breakup (not a death). I'm including it in case it helps anyone at all...
    ---------------------------------------------
    Dear Friend,
    I understand your feelings and unfortunately many people do. Trust it happened for some reason, and the only control you have now is to practice letting go. Focus on something positive, like helping others, and you will be ok. There are 6.5 BILLION people on this planet! Make a vow today to love them all! You do not have to be prisoner to one person. Think about it - you are missing someone who no longer misses or thinks about you. But the Universe/God knows you're worth missing... so listen to your intuition which will tell you that you are a miracle... just as much so as anyone else in the world who has ever lived!
    True ACCEPTANCE will make way for healing and getting back in touch with who you are! Accepting is the beginning of the end of struggle!
    Please do yourself and your loved ones a favor, say these words while looking into your eyes in the mirror - "I love me. I am all I need. I smile and laugh because it's good for me. Today is a clean slate, but only if I leave the past where it belongs. I will think of other things I can control when I start to feel anguish about the breakup."
    You are worth so much more than spending time feeling bad about ANYTHING!
    I and all the other souls in the Universe love you!
    Don't ever let someone not choosing you make you feel like you cannot love others, and especially yourself!
    Peace, Love & Light,
    Pete
     

  3. WELL--
    WHAT DO WE KNOW OF THE DARK MYSTERIES OF THE HEART?
    THE ORIGINAL " INTENTION EXPERIMENT " --- WHICH IS THE MANTLE OF THIS FORUM AND FOLLOW UP OF ANNE'S FAMOUS BOOK
    --WAS INDEED A "QUANTUM BUTTERFLY EFFECT" -- DISCOVERED AND PRACTISED SINCE MORE THAN SIX THOUSAND YEARS AGO, WHILE SACRIFICING ANIMALS IN VEDIC INDIAN RITUALS.
    ALL OF YOU WOULD HAVE READ HUNDREDS OF BOOKS ON " BODY LANGUAGE "
    WHEN A WOMAN FALLS IN "LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT" -- SHE ALWAYS YAWNS. THESE ARE HEART WAVES.
    I HAVE TRIED THIS OUT AS AN EXPERIMENT -- IN ALMOST EVERY COUNTRY ON THIS PLANET OVER 4 DECADES.
    CAPT AJIT VADAKAYIL
    ..

  4. My beloved mate of 3 years suicided due to heart surgery that did not work. I am amazed in reading the comments; I have had the same issues crop up for me --and I know the value of life and under grief. Bob has 'talked' to me many times since he abandoned me. And that's how I feel--abandoned.

  5. I would add that it doesn't have to be married couples in love who only follow this pattern. My Mother died several years ago following a short stay in hospital, having lived for over 30 years in the same house as her younger brother, after my father's death when I was a child. They never got on well, argued constantly, and knew just how to agrievate each other. Within the year following my Mother's death, my Uncle died. With no one to fight with there was no reason to carry on.

  6. I was particularly moved by your article because earlier today as a result of a very bizarre combination of technological failures I was led to believe that I had lost someone I love very deeply. I am beyond grateful that this turned out not to be the case. After my emotional roller-coaster day, I shall graciously accept your article as a synchronistic complement to the pattern I encountered this morning, and view it as a powerful life-lesson.
    Thank you so much for your insight and for the timeliness of publication.
    Richard Coldman

  7. So true... I was fascinated to read the little bit about ‘stress cardiomyopathy’.
    I've experienced my share of broken hearts, and even with all their emotionality, was ever curious, wondering just what was the physiological explanation of the pain in my heart. Sure, the constriction makes sense, but what makes it happen?
    My own theory is that it's an oxytocin withdrawal, but I've also seen an amazingly quick reversal of sorrowful feelings corresponding to a change in my thinking - rather like a faucet being turned off. Quite remarkable.

  8. We, alive beings, are energy balls (=batteries of light :))) ). When one person around us leaves our network of light, we loose her/his energy. If we choose to live on this planet, we should consciously connect ourselves to other people, to Nature and to the High Forces of Light = to the network of light. :)))

  9. No doubt in my mind this is absolutely true 🙂
    There's a reason the saying "died of a broken heart" has been around as long as it has been.
    We've known this all along, in our blueprint.
    Love, Light & Peace

  10. When my great aunt was on her death bed, two of her three healthy cats died suddenly. One was hit by a car, the other was just found dead of no apparent cause. Our family has always felt that they knew she was dying and didn't want to be left behind.

  11. One of the primary "causes" of all the disease and illness in Western society, physical and mental, is a primary lack of human connectiveness due to the advance of technology. Virtual reality is no reality at all.
    Bring on the solar storms so we can get back too the basics!

  12. I have been working on my "broken Heart" for years. It does not have to be just the loss of a marriage partner, but can also be never finding that true connection with another, or an empathy for all the hurt and wrong doing in the world. Just yesterday I felt that longing pain in my heart and I massaged my chest and told my heart how much I loved it and what a good job it has done for me regardless of the breaks my life has given it.

  13. In 1999 I "lost" my fiance to cancer. I was 28 and heartbroken...I was giving up. I was blessed with an amazing out of body experience that saved my life. I was shown the space between this world and spirit...I was loved and nurtured and told to return home. I was not done and had work to do.
    Since that time I have devoted my life to healing myself and serving others to help them heal. Thank you for your work Lynn - you have been an inspiration and a source of information for me and my clients for many years.
    Atma Namaste,
    Joy

  14. Please Lynne, I can't believe that the average employee feels their workplace is dog eat dog and as unpleasant as you say. I for one have worked in large and small companies, offices and stores, in door to door sales and in an artists community painting on the street. Every place I worked I found friends by the dozen and a congenial work environment. I suspect your opinion is based on some unpleasant work experience of your own?
    I think many people make "friends for life', pun intended, in the workplace.

  15. I saw this first hand when a professor of mine died between semesters. He was 75 and his wife died suddenly on Xmas Eve. He was gone three weeks later.

  16. In August 2007, I lost the most important person to me in my entire life. I nearly died that month, as well as on four other separate occasions over the next two years, all from a broken heart. I still feel emotional scars from it, but I have more or less "recovered". I don't know that I'll love anyone else as much as I loved--and still feel love for--the person I lost--but I have learned that I *can* live without him. There are still bad days, but mostly, I am slowly moving on.

  17. I wonder about the connectedness of all beings. While married and living on several forested acres in the Sierras, I felt a deep connection with the Nature Beings. I honored their presence and considered them when building, planting, etc.
    When I divorced and moved away, seven large (50-60ft tall) trees that surrounded the house died within a few months. It was sad and odd at the same time.

  18. I too have known the heart-break of the loss of loved ones but I must be very resiliant as I always seem to come back. It has taken months, even years, but here I am. I think now of the new research being done in the ZPF and the sub-atomic waves in which we all exist. It might be easier for all of us if we could just remember this ... that no connection is ever 'broken' but just moved to other planes of being. I still very much love those I've 'lost' and I do feel bereft of their company for the time being, but I also hope that our connections are still there, even as a gossamer trace. My heart goes out to all of you suffering loss today. I love you.

  19. I experienced a super-traumatic 18 months during which I moved , was deserted by my husband, went bankrupt as a result, moved again, my children had to change schools twice, and I lost my cat. I also re-married to my best friend. Then my mother died. It was totally bizarre. I went around with my heart feeling constricted for months on end. But I had to live for my children who were young and needed me. At the end of it all, I developed what has turned out to be rheumatoid arthritis. I am now almost totally disabled.
    What doesn't kill you can cripple you. Had it not been for my now husband, I probably would have died.
    Elizabeth

  20. When I person I loved as much as life died, I not only wondered why I was still breathing but experienced terrible pain in my chest. Luckily, I was receiving lots of bodywork at the time and the support of the people there somehow helped me. It didn't stop me from grieving for more than 5 years.

  21. I believe that dying of a broken heart is a real phenomena. I also believe if one doesn't die physically, one can "die" and be reborn like a Phoenix rising out of the ashes.

  22. In the last 10 years of his life, my husband of 29 years suffered with Alzheimer's disease. I became his caregiver, as well as our family's breadwinner. We had a wonderful relationship and when he needed me to be there for him, I was. The last 5 years were particularly painful as Alzheimer's wracked his mind and deteriorated his body. Watching his slow demise, was often difficult and heartbreaking. I knew my obligation and commitment to our marriage vows were sacred, so I cared for him at home to the best of my ability.
    While it was a blessing to see him released from the assault on his mind and body, not a day goes by that I do not miss him. What sustains me and keeps me forever joyous is the knowledge that love transcends all physical boundaries. He may not be here, but our love is. I feel more connected to him now than I did for the last few years of his life. It has only served to strengthen my faith and propel me into my deepest creative self so much so that I wrote a novel, a mystical romance. Our love freed me to become who I am meant to be. For that I am eternally grateful.
    Life does not end with physical death; it only drags us deeper into the eternal mystery of who we really are. If all who are suffering from the illusion of loss would understand the message they are given, the opportunity to reconnect with all life, especially their own, then they would embrace the divine and feel the sacredness of their own lives and avoid the consequences of heart break.
    Namaste.

  23. Watching birds fly provides me with some marvelous moments. The subtle ways they adjust the pitch and push of their wings pointing to the even more subtle movements of the air currents they are interacting with teaches me about how to improve my responses to constantly fluctuating patterns of this now of life. Birds "seem" to like to challenge and provoke each other and hang out with each other.
    How we react to one another as humans is beginning to interest me similarly. How we behave in print and in the flesh seems to point out the subtle shape of the emotions we are learning to "ride" on as though they were shifting currents of air. A sudden wind sheer can send a bird scrambling. A sudden shift of emotion can severely stress our resources.
    Life is fascinating and there are many ways to connect
    in it. Lynne's blogs are not always easy material, but they stretch us and even when painful they challenge us to grow in competence, I think. We often, it seems, thwart one another's intentions. So when people are gathering together to explore ways to coordinate intentions for common benefit, it gives us a bigger wave to practice on. Surf's up, anyone?

  24. The article itself is accurate, SOME people who have experienced the loss of a loved one DO die of a broken heart. But "All Die of Heartbreak" is inaccurate and sends out a negative intention: to believe we ALL die of heartbreak predisposes us to ... dying of heartbreak.
    I intend my eventual death, many years from now, to occur with my being saturated with love, fillled with light, greatly satisfied, inundated with joy, and surrounded by my loving friends and family. Ahhhhhhhhhhh...

  25. My own experience is right on point, as is that of a nearby friend whose wife died last year. In his case, he had a stroke within six months. In my case, four years ago I had to undergo two unrelated surgeries within six months after the passing of my wife, to whom I had been married for 64 and one-half years. The source of this , for me, did not lie in the conscious mind, but at the subconscious level. I was sharply surprised and felt suddenly afraid of such a threatening assault upon my formerly superior health. My defenses had been brushed aside, and I feared that more could come upon me. Indeed, I had initially suffered an undefined pain across my back for some weeks. Lynne, this series was clear demonstration that the mind in silent grief communicates negatively to the systems of the body, with the result that some sectors break down. I was 86 years of age at the time this occurred. My friend who had the stroke was in his sixties. Any control of this phenomenon will have to be conducted at the subconscious level. Presumably, this would be done with hypnotic methods. Imagine how many lives could be saved by routine application of such remedial techniques.

  26. Lynne: Allow me to repeat for emphasis. This is a subconscious phenomenon. It can only be controlled, or remedied, or prevented by the use of hypnotic techniques, if that is the only means of positively influencing the subconscious mind. Routine use of this method on surviving spouses could save hundreds of thousands, even millions of lives annually around the world. Why isn't this being done, or even widely proposed?

  27. Fascinating research but I would also add my own experience to this. And it was not due to the death of a spouse!!!
    At 33 I suffered a heart attack and it was very puzzling to the medical profession because there was no physical cause that could be ascertained. I've lived a very "pure" life in that I've never smoked, never drunk alcohol, I was not over-weight, I'm vegetarian and yet I still had this attack.
    Of course, I knew it was because my brother and father had died within a year of each other and my heart, too, was totally broken. So it is not only when a spouse dies but when one suffers extreme emotional stress. It could also have to do with the "mortality" factor - in that any death of a loved one brings our own mortality into sharp focus.
    I do not think that I fear my own death but one can never be sure what deep-seated stuff is also happening.

  28. I met my twin flame when I was 17 years old. It was my first week in college. We dated for one month, then I broke up with him. I didn't appreciate his devotion, too young to know how rare it was - how rare he was.
    We met again almost 3 years later, fell madly in loved, and became engaged. He gave me a beautiful diamond ring. This period of falling in love with him was daily bliss, the happiest I have ever been. I wrote in my journal every night that he was the man God had created for me - my perfect soulmate. My mother and I planned the whole wedding.
    Six months before the wedding, we had a massive fight, he drove away, and I ended the engagement. Things had been getting confusing and complicated leading up to that point, and I had no idea how to cope. I made every phone call to cancel my own wedding.
    Now I am 26 and EVERY SINGLE DAY I feel tightness in my chest because I may not get another soulmate. I suffer the inexpressible. I told him years ago that my love for him was beyond space-time, and at the time, I had no idea what I was saying. But now, through experience, I know it's true.
    He is married now, I hope happily. But I just have this feeling that, when he visits me in my dreams, we actually are meeting on some other-dimensional plane. Those are the most vivid dreams of my life. I wake up smiling, or laughing, sometimes crying, sometimes hyperventilating.
    Love is our only purpose in this life.

  29. couldn't agree more...but i think it is possible to die of a broken heart long after ones soul mate has passed on...that is beyond the 3 year threshold stated in this article...i would imagine that "stress cardiomyopathy" like other forms of cardiomyopathy varies in severity from person to person...i know my heart was (at the very least) damaged by the sudden death of my soul mate in june 07 ago...

  30. Love is our purpose and our saving grace... and getting outside of ourselves and working for something greater or just caring for others... and realizing how blessed you truly are...
    I suppose that is what has sustained me over years of mourning... and the awareness that the soul lives on and it is just this suit of clothing that we discard at death....

  31. To Chatham H Forbes Sr - Besides hypnosis there is an emerging science called Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT. You can learn about "tapping" on Dr. Mercola's site, or many others. Here's a good place to start: http://www.eftuniverse.com/

  32. After 26 years of struggle, his frequent long term dependence on me, his determinedness to pull everything down around us in every way, his frequent dishonesty including infidelity, his inability to problem solve and plan with me, even for the sake of out two children and the shocking arguments that resulted; I began the arduous task of trying to move on. My partner, in his infinite wisdom, took a cocktail of medication and died, directly after he argued with our daughter about his often disgraceful, disrespectful and disturbing behaviour, including acting out suicide attempts in front of us, everytime he did not get his own way. After he died and his parents said she had killed her father, my daughter tried to take her life, twice. Then ...my aunty died ...then our 16 year old dog died and now my mum is critical. All this on top of a sexual and physically abusive childhood, at the hands of horrible, violent, much older brothers and falling pregnant at 18, to my first love, who simply deserted me. To this day I do not know how I managed to get through university and support all of us all these years. My psychologist told me I have dysfunctional empathy that hinders my self preservation. Oh well. Figured something wasn't quite right with me. I am now very tired and disappointed with my life and the people I been involved with. I am not quite 50 but am told I look younger. Funny. I know I have done my very best for everyone, but the more I did the less they cared for me. Such is life. I am medically trained and could leave this world quickly without fuss, but I will try just one more time. So please ...will you send to me in Australia, some good luck, intent, wishes ...anything to help me, this unknown person whom has revealed her sadness to you, find the true love and happiness she has never known. That is all there is. Love. I live everyday in the hope that I will know it before I die. I wish for you too, unknown reader of my life's story ...the same.

  33. several months ago I believe I read somewhere, that research showed the heart was like the mind it
    could display emotion and influence the mind.
    When I get bouts of melancholy I feel in my heart region.

  34. So many people prompted to share their pain.
    When we personally go through emotional trauma, we feel like no one on earth knows the depth of the pain we are suffering. I know, for like almost every person I have had my share, and in my isolated sadness, anger and confusion believed ( selfishly) that no one else had ever suffered as I suffered.
    Eventually I made the decision to choose to create a positive future, to keep reminding myself that nothing is permanent, and whatever is happening is in some unknown way happening for a reason, and that one day I would come out the other end of the tunnel of despair somehow wiser, brighter, more whole.
    I think it is a mistake to blame others for our own sad and lonely state of mind, and somehow we have to learn to transcend this view and take personal responsibility for our own future self and wellbeing. Make the decision to choose positive over negative, and develop compassion to others who are suffering the pain of emotional loss.
    It is terrible to be at the bottom of a black pit of despair, but it is possible to turn life around and find again love, joy, beauty and a sense of purpose again. Choose wholeheartedly not to be a victim. Loss of loved ones for whatever reason is an inevitable part of our mortal experience.
    Now in my early 50's I have joked on occasion that just when I have started to think that I had life worked out the universe would pitch another curve ball at me. I have commented that I have enough character, thank you very much, and don't need any more so called character building experiences. But there will be more, as a mortal being with emotional connections, there will be births and deaths in my family and amongst my friends, connections will be forged and sometimes broken.
    Human experience is rich, but we all experience the joy of love and the pain of loss. The sudden shock of loss can sometimes be too much for a heart to bear. But should we survive that loss, we can choose how we go forward.
    To everyone here I hope you find the key to once again unlocking love and joy in your life.. Even though you may not know it, you hold that key inside yourself.
    Love and Light.

  35. And I must agree with Marianna, some do, but not all die of heartbreak, and the title of this blog is somewhat unfortunate considering the authors knowledge and understanding of the power of words and intentions.

  36. Just for fun, I can't agree with Marianna. Unless I miss my guess( does this mean I guessed wrong or guessed when it wasn't my turn?) a person can be brain dead without being declared dead, but death, by whatever apparent agency, is associated with the absence of a pulse and thus a ceasing of the heart to pump. While the metaphoric "heartbreak" doesn't always kill one, (and if Ya caint fand uh replacemnt, weyal theyn ya ayss is daid, brutha) then one is generally declared dead at some point. I know, I know, some people wake up in the morgue or somewhere and the greedy relatives start swearin( the inheritance just got put off...again). Even so, there's ALWAYS a next time (except maybe Jesus and a few advanced buddhists who simply dissoved into spirit. But if there's an afterlife then death is an illusion since we really never die. But then that would mean I wrote all this for nothin and I ain't given up that easy.

  37. By the way, Happy Birthday Goldie Hahn. Even tho ya blew me off at the altar, I thought you were great in Pvt Benjamin.

  38. This is reallly so interesting, so many people I am in awe of every week, are opening their hearts . Thank you, also great humor, I really love you all, I believe in miracles, and I'm one in the making, and guess what I choose to believe you all are too. We are all here for a reason, Peace and love......later

  39. Dear All,
    Thank you for all the insightful, heart-rending comments and stories. To answer the few who queried why I chose such a title, it was just a play on words. Saul Bellow wrote a novel called None Die of Heartbreak; the writer in me was responding to that.
    As you say, it doesn't have to be a spouse. My mother survived a terrible ordeal when my father was accidentally killed when she was only 59. But when her baby sister died from cancer 20 years later, she suddenly developed cancer (and died) within six months. All the more reason for us to explore all those good techniques written about above: hypnosis, EFT, Thought Field Therapy and other energy medicines.
    Warmest wishes,
    Lynne

  40. Dear Lone-Lee,
    I do sent you all my good feelings and I'm sure you will meet the right person. Who will give you all the good you are in need of. Tonight all my intentions will be for you. And I promise to think regulary on you.

  41. In addition to the useful techniques Lynne has listed I would like to add Larry Crane's Release Technique, and Morty Lefcoe's Elimination of Beliefs technique. Also of immense help in understanding ourselves and our life are Eckhart Tolle's books.

  42. Dear mijklien,
    Thankyou for your kind words and intentions, most unexpected. Sadly, we have found, where there is potent tragedy - unless you are paying fees, nobody wants to know you in the real world, or the web world. Those of real and good intent in western society ...and we know by actual painful experience, are indeed rare and evermore precious. Again, I thankyou, wherever you are.

  43. Two points arise:
    a) The "death" does not always manifest as a
    physical transition. It can have other ways
    of being "switched off".
    b) The syndrome may well result from the
    phenomenon of "attachment". Part of our
    challenge in each incarnation on this planet
    (or the only one!) is to achieve a balance
    between attachment and detachment. The
    existence of these "prompt" deaths suggests
    that some are veering overly much to the
    former. Of course, there are many who never
    experience the love that can ensure that they
    avoid over development of the latter.
    Alan Rayner
    EX39 2BA

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