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What makes for true happiness

On March 17th, 2017

A survey just got published last week showing that the biggest regret expressed by an overwhelming majority of people on their deathbeds is that they didn’t live what they considered a life of purpose and meaning.

Since I’m speaking at the World Happiness Summit today I thought I’d look at what a life of meaning actually means and what about it makes for true happiness.

The watermark for happiness

After the political scientist Robert Putnam of Harvard University wrote his ground-breaking book, Bowling Alone, which woke Americans up to the fraying of the social fabric across the US, researchers at the John F. Kennedy School at Harvard decided to explore exactly what makes for what they refer to as ‘social capital’ – happiness, close-knit communities and satisfied residents – by carrying out a survey of 30,000 members of diverse communities across America.

What they found was revelatory. Unless you were poor, money just didn’t do it for people. Once you achieved an annual income above $75,000, your emotional happiness had very little to do with your bank balance.

People below that income were miserable because they were struggling just to pay the bills, but once they’d achieved that level of income, making any more money didn’t offer any greater joy.

That division – between being able to pay your bills and not being able to – was the only watermark connecting money in any way with life satisfaction.

But the one factor that did make the greatest sense of satisfaction and happiness was lending a helping hand. Those willing to give their time or money were 42 percent more likely to be happy than those who weren’t.

 

What is true pleasure?

But perhaps the most compelling research was carried out by psychologists at the University of North Carolina, who wanted to examine the difference in likely future health between healthy people who live a fulfilling life of pleasure – what we’d normally define as the good life – compared to those who live a life of purpose or meaning.

The researchers examined the gene expressions and psychological states of eighty healthy volunteers in both groups. Although the members of the two groups all claimed to be highly content and not depressed, their gene expression profile couldn’t have been more divergent.

Among the pleasure seekers the psychologists were amazed to discover high levels of inflammation, considered a marker for degenerative illnesses, and lower levels of gene expression involved in antibody synthesis, the body’s response to outside attack.

If you hadn’t known their histories, you would have concluded that these were the gene profiles of people exposed to a great deal of adversity or in the midst of difficult life crises –  extreme financial difficulty, life-threatening disease, a recent bereavement.

These people were all perfect candidates for a heart attack, Alzheimer’s disease, even cancer. In a few years, they would be dropping like flies.

Those whose lives were not as affluent or stress-free but were purposeful and filled with meaning, on the other hand, had low inflammatory markers and a down-regulation of stress-related gene expression, both indicative of rude good health.

This all sounds counter-intuitive to us in the West, with our emphasis on material success at any cost, but it has to do with what exactly constitute ‘meaning’ in our lives.

 

Meaningful connections

Scientists from Boston College discovered this when trying to figure out why patients suffering from chronic pain and depression markedly improved once they began helping others in the same boat.

As they repeatedly noted to the researchers, it was all about “making a connection” and being provided with “a sense of purpose.”

Our need to help other people is perhaps the one element that gives our life the greatest meaning. And that’s the best definition I can think of to describe true happiness.

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6 responses to “What makes for true happiness”

  1. I've concluded that Freud was right -- it all comes down to the Pleasure Principle. It's just that he got stuck around the first two chakras. Yet as we grow more heart-centered and refined energetically, our pleasures also become more refined and exquisite. I look at kindness as heart-candy -- and am aware that we do onto ourselves as we do onto others. It cannot be otherwise. So I've coined a fun word for the extraordinary pleasures that comes from being of loving service to other beings: It is Meta-Trans-Sensuous-Supra-Sexual-Para-Hedonism. And I say, accept nothing less!

    Pierre Teilhard de Chardin pointed out that if there wasn't the impulse toward union between cells, Love couldn't appear between human beings. So, I've also coined a simple word for the sweetness of love that binds all Creation together. It is Glu-Close. And I do believe that it is such connective sweetness -- and our own creative process in service to ourselves and others -- that brings the greatest joy in life.

  2. Ann Rowland says:

    How true
    My mother always had to look to every penny, hardly ever bought anything new, never had a car or went abroard for a holiday, but was always the one her parents and sisters turned to for help and nursed her bed ridden mother for years. She died one month off her 103 birthday and the certificate said "old age and exhustion" as the cause as she had no illnesses and was never on any drugs for anything.

  3. barbara says:

    It's all been said before,years ago, read Martin Seligman's books

  4. Bernie Littlejohn says:

    As I come up to my 89th birthday in a day or two I am quite sure these assumptions are correct. I live in Canada now, but I grew up in London and did my high school education during the ongoing WW2 blitz. Even under those hazardous circumstances when people stuck together and in spite of the danger, helped others in worse circumstance, their joy was obvious.. I still have family members who depend on me even though I suffer from sciatica. And there are times their demands initially may make angry, but I know I will feel rewarded in spite of a lack of a show of appreciation and love from them.

  5. Zenon Gruba says:

    In the 45 years I have practised as a medical doctor, I have found that my patients only become "truly happy" and "truly spiritual" when they were no longer sick.
    I found that in my patient pool, not one single patient ever had a half decent medical history taken nor a half proper physical examination carried out.
    Yet many of the practitioners that had been seen, all promised the very best treatments in the world.
    The practitioners all gave their best guesstimation of what was wrong and treated their guesstimation. No doubt the practitioner was right often enough for them not to recognise what they were doing. That's OK.
    But when a patient is really healthy, then they often do not need to seek happiness or spiritual awakening or great relationships. They aleady seem to have them

  6. Kelly Fitzsimmons says:

    This makes me think about volunteer activities I can do with my two year old son. I want to teach him young that the more he gives the more fulfilling and fascinating life is. I'd also love to bring my dog who brings so much joy to so many people's lives. I think the three of us can make a difference and maybe just once a month we go to a nursing home. Or better yet work clothes children are struggling with ellman's. Thanks for helping me think outside of the box.

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